For a happy relationship both parties need to do their own bit, here is a list to show how easily it can be done. There are lots of other things, but this list will help you to start with.
The secret to a long and happy placement
- Bring a small gift for the children. It is always a good way to get their love and acceptance.
- Be polite and listen to the parent’s wishes.
- Get involved in family life, be part of the family, play with the children and have fun with them.
- Make sure you do your job 100%.
- Ask questions, show interest in your new family and their culture.
- Tell them where you go and what time you are coming back. Always ask if it is ok with them. Some families worry a lot about their au pairs / mother’s help and want to make sure they are fine.
- Always ask for permission to use the car, tv, internet, phone, etc.
- Always ask permission if you want to invite your friends over.
- Always keep your room tidy and clean.
- NEVER LEAVE THE CHILDREN ALONE!
- Don’t stay in your room a lot as it shows you are not interested in the family.
- Don’t surf on the internet during the day. Go online after you have finished for the day.
- Dress appropriately! Don’t wear deep cut tops or short skirts.
- Don’t swear, not even in your own language.
- Be proactive! Do things before you are asked to (e.g. empty the bin if you see it’s full, empty the dishwasher when it’s finished, etc.)
- Ask for a written routine or timetable if you feel that would help you remember all the jobs.
- Make sure you understand everything! If in doubt, just ask!
- Be creative and use your imagination (e.g. do a drawing contest with the children)
- Be flexible. Life is changing continuously and it is important the parents know they can count on you.
- If you want do extra work, first ask the family if they are ok with that.
- Allow the family to have privacy sometimes if they ask for it, or you sense they need it.
